Honor your mother

I had a friend tell me they would never go to church because of the commandment that they honor (love) their mother. Due to terrible things that happened in their childhood they felt they could never do that and they would therefore be in a perpetual state of sinning.
First off – we are all sinners. Believing in Christ and accepting him as your savior doesn’t mean you’ll never sin. (That can be a long discussion – pin it for some other time)
As for the Commandment, my understanding is “Honor your mother and father – and your days will be long in the land your God has given you”. In some ways this reads more as a promise than a commandment. Also, the land “given” MAY be interpreted as heaven, not here on Earth.
To my point.
Honor is not love. Honor, to me, is that you wouldn’t do anything to harm or embarrass them. You will treat and speak of them with respect. You do not have to love (or even like) someone to respect them. There is a lot of debate (I’m sure) if my interpretation, but if it helps someone who wasn’t blessed with a mother like mine then it was worth posting.